by taken (taken@subhuman.org)
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Contents:
Introduction
Warning
Why menstrual slavery?
Duties of the menstrual slave
Privileges/punishments for your menstrual slave
Suggested materials
How to introduce your sub to menstrual slavery
Sample introductory scene (including a letter to the sub)
Online resources for you and your slave
Introduction:
During a particularly deep (and hot!) free-association talk with a lover about
his sexual fantasies, I was somewhat surprised to hear him volunteer an intense
interest in becoming my menstrual slave. After some probing questions, I
realized that this was more than just a verbal fantasy for my lover, and that he
wanted to serve as my menstrual slave during my period. "Umm, okay... where do I
begin?" I thought to myself.
After some very carefully-constructed queries on several search engines yielded
nothing but membership applications for sex sites, I decided to start from
scratch. With limited time for research, I gave great thought to the subject and
began to make preparations. The article and sample documents below are the
result of my exploration of menstrual slavery with my lover.
WARNING: As with any exchange of body fluids, activity with the menstrual flow is to be approached with caution. Unless the submissive is absolutely certain that Mistress is free from HIV, hepatitis (in all its strains), and other STD's and blood-borne pathogens, I personally consider it VERY DANGEROUS to play with her menstrual blood. While HIV is a relatively fragile virus and dies quickly, hepatitis can linger in droplets of dried fluids for days! THINK ABOUT SAFETY BEFORE YOU PLAY.
Why menstrual slavery?
What appeal does menstrual slavery hold? Many women grow up with the unfortunate
experience of having been taught, either directly or by observation of others'
reactions, that menstruation is to be regarded with fear, distaste, annoyance,
or a combination of these reactions. For some women, this has tainted their view
of a completely natural function of their bodies and sexuality, turning the
menses into an ordeal to be dreaded rather than appreciated. And often, such an
attitude transfers to the woman's partner. But by involving one's sub/slave
partner, the menses becomes a special time between the two, whereby both Domme
and sub/slave can come to understand, appreciate, and enjoy this part of her
sexuality.
In order for you to get the most out of your slave, I think it's important to
consider why you and/or he find it arousing, so that you can maximize your
treatment of him. Here are some possible "draws" to menstrual slavery for your
slave boy:
1. Humiliation: Your sub/slave may find the humiliation of play with your soiled
menstrual paraphernalia an intense reminder of how completely he is controlled
by you.
2. Intimacy: For many women, the menses is a personal time. Your sub/slave may
find that the privilege of being allowed to participate in your period is a very
intimate way for the two of you to connect.
3. Worship of Femininity: The menses is wholly feminine. It's another
affirmation of the glorious differences between the sexes. Most likely, your
sub/slave adores these differences, revels in your femininity, worships it.
4. Feminization: If your sub/slave enjoys being feminized, this is a way for him
to live vicariously through you. (Suggestions on ways to involve your
sissy-sub/slave are included later.)
5. Blood Appeal: If you and your sub/slave enjoy blood sports, menstrual slavery
is a natural extension of that interest.
6. Mysticism/Taboo: In many cultures, the menses is mystical, possibly to the
point that it is a cultural taboo. Our cycles correspond almost exactly to the
phases of the moon; some cultures and religions hold that women become more
powerful during their "moon time" or have supernatural abilities, and the blood
of a menstruating woman may be considered sacred. Perhaps the spiritual aspect
of your relationship may be explored through your sub/slave's menstrual
servitude.
Duties of the menstrual
slave:
What does a menstrual slave do? Hmmm... just about anything you can think of for
him to do! Some ideas (season to taste):
1. The slave will (after consulting with Mistress as to her personal
preferences) purchase all pads, tampons, Midol, wet-wipes, douches, etc., that
are required to care for Mistress during her period.
2a. The slave is responsible for attending to Mistress's personal hygiene during
the duration of her period. This includes following Mistress (on hands and
knees) into the bathroom when she uses it and will kneel before her as she uses
the toilet. The menstrual slave will check, by sight and by questioning whether
she feels the need to have her pads or tampons changed, how she desires to be
cleaned (tongue, wash cloth, wet-wipes, douche, etc.), and checking to see if
she needs new panties.
2b. If Mistress and her slave are in public (restaurant, theatre, etc.) when she
uses the bathroom, the slave will follow her to the door of the bathroom,
kissing Mistress's hand as a sign of respect, before she enters the bathroom.
The slave will wait at the door of the restroom, until Mistress emerges, where
he will greet her with another kiss of her hand. (Or substitute any other
appropriate show of devotion.)
3. Mistress's panties, if soiled with blood, are to be hand-laundered by the
slave.
4. The slave is to pay extra-special attention to Mistress's breasts and
abdomen, and will tend to any discomfort she may be experiencing. The slave may
suggest gentle massage, heating pads, ibuprofen, soothing drinks, etc. for
Mistress's comfort.
5. If Mistress keeps track of her period on a calendar or planner, it is the
slave's duty to record the start date, end date, and make any daily notes
regarding amount of flow, special pain or sensitivity Mistress feels, swelling
or bloating, body temperature, menstrual headaches, moods, sexual energy, or any
other special charting Mistress wishes to have recorded for medical or fertility
purposes. (More great ideas for documenting your period here!!!
http://coolgold.com.au/~imacleod/keeptrack.html)
6. If Mistress uses the birth control pill, she may require her slave to feed it
to her daily at an appointed time.
7. The slave will create a menstrual kit to be carried when away from home. The
kit may include items such as pads, tampons, disposable douches, Wet Wipes,
panties, K-Y or Astroglide and food dye (see #8 in Privileges/punishments
section), red nail polish, a red ribbon or string, a red marker, Midol or
ibuprofen, latex gloves if applicable, spare birth control (hormonal
supplements) if applicable, spare hand towel, etc. This can be packed in a small
duffel bag, diaper bag, or another bag with compartments. (A red bag would be
fun!)
8. The slave will keep his own special "period panties" to be worn during the
duration of Mistress's period, out of respect for this special time.
9. The slave will conduct online research into the menstrual cycle, to gain a
better understanding of Mistress's health and menstrual experience. (See
"Resources" for some URL's to get him started).
10. Sheets and bedding will be cleaned by the slave. If Mistress enjoys blood
play during her period, a rubber sheet may be used to keep the mattress from
staining during sex and sleep.
Privileges/punishments
for your menstrual slave:
Depending on your personal viewpoint, and your sub's affinity or distaste for
the following activities, these suggestions may serve either as privileges or as
punishments. Tweak these ideas to your liking:
1. When attending to Mistress's needs in the bathroom, the slave will kiss the
pad each time Mistress's panties come down. When Mistress uses a tampon, the
slave will briefly suckle on the string.
2. The slave will lick Mistress clean of blood (optional: and urine) when she is
finished using the bathroom--or at any time of her spontaneous choosing.
3. The slave will wear a red ribbon around his wrist during the entire duration
of Mistress's period as a reminder to him of his position as Mistress's period
slut. (If asked about this in public, the slave may make whatever explanation
Mistress has told him to give--or better, leave it up to him to make an excuse.
That's his worry, not Mistress's.)
4. Mistress may mark her slave with her blood to remind him of his servitude. (A
well-saturated tampon works well as a "magic marker"!) The forehead, chin, and
lips are good candidates for such marking, as are the chest, abdomen, pubic
mound, back, and buttocks.
5. Mistress may collect her blood to be mixed into the slave's drink/food, or to
be consumed by itself (see the Resources list for a device to collect menstrual
blood).
6. Mistress may give the submissive her used tampon to suckle as a pacifier or
lollipop (or freeze it and serve it to him as a popsicle!).
7. The slave may be gagged with Mistress's used pads (check first to make sure
the lining is intact, so none of the padding is accidentally inhaled).
8. Mistress may require her slave to have a "sympathy period." The slave wears
pads in his underpants/panties, and/or tampons (lubricated, otherwise the cotton
may stick and shred) in his ass during the duration of Mistress's period.
Further, Mistress may choose to simulate menstrual flow in the slave by coating
his cock and balls with honey, K-Y or Astroglide, or similar sticky substances.
(Bonus: add food coloring! Be careful about staining clothing in case of leaks.)
9. The slave may be required to wear Mistress's own soiled pads and tampons.
10. Mistress may have her period slut kneel before her used pads/tampons and
masturbate to climax upon them. (Variation 1: the slave must then wear the
pad/tampon.) (Variation 2: the slave must lick his cum from the pad/tampon.)
11. For humor or humiliation, after using a pad, Mistress may carefully remove
the pad and re-stick it upon the slave's body (the forehead is nice).
12. The slave may be marked with a red pen or marker on the hand, arm, or other
visible areas, to be worn in public. The marking may be a symbolic letter ("P"
for period, punishment, privileged; "S" for sub, slave, or slut; etc.) or word
("bad," "good," etc.). For added intensity, write something explicit on the
slave's upper arm, where it will be covered by a shirt sleeve while he is out,
but has the delicious possibility of being discovered ("blood slut," "fuck toy,"
"period sissy," etc.).
13. Mistress may choose to have her slave serve other BDSM friends who are
experiencing their menses. [NOTE: See WARNING above concerning safety
considerations involved with blood play!!!]
14. Mistress may send her slave out in public (to the store to buy tampons) with
his mouth stuffed with a tampon. If the slave opens his mouth, he risks
discovery.
15. The slave may have to wash out used tampons to be recycled for Mistress to
use on him.
16. Mistress may paint one or all of the slave's toenails a bright blood-red to
remind him of his servitude.
17. Mistress may call her slave by special names during her period: blood slut,
rag-head, red dick, Bloody Mary, etc.
18. If the slave works outside the home, Mistress may request him to come home
over lunch or dinner break to clean her and change her pads or tampons, and/or
to undergo any humiliation she may enjoy watching. (Drop to his knees upon
entering the apartment/house and masturbate while licking her bloody pussy,
etc.)
Suggested materials:
1. Obviously, whatever pads and/or tampons you use. You may want to jot these
down on a notecard for your slave if he is responsible for getting them at the
store.
2. Wet Wipes, Baby Wipes, or similar. When my slut wasn't cleaning me with his
mouth, I found the Wet Wipes to be really handy. It doesn't dissolve upon
contact with blood and fluids like toilet paper can, it's easily disposable, I
felt cleaner, it was soothing, and it was pleasantly scented.
3. Douches, if you use them.
4. Stain-remover and Woolite (or another hand-wash detergent) so that your slave
is equipped to wash out any blood-stained panties.
5. An old, absorbent towel to protect furniture or carpeting from your blood
while you're playing.
6. A red ribbon, yarn, or thread with which to mark your slave during the
duration of your period, if you so desire.
7. K-Y, Astroglide, honey, or any other sticky substance with which you may wish
to coat your slave's genitalia, if you choose to have him participate in a
"sympathy period" with you. (See "Privileges/punishments," #8.) A few drops of
red food dye are optional.
8. A special duffel bag or other bag, if Mistress desires the slave to make a
"period kit" for travelling.
How to introduce your sub to
menstrual slavery:
Of course, you COULD just spring all of this on him, with no prior discussion.
But in the opinion of the author, before trying something that may be totally
out of his experience (he may not even have thought about it before), the loving
thing to do is discuss his feelings about the matter. Especially where blood is
concerned, he may have hard limits. Find out. If the idea appeals to him, probe
deeper. Find out what he thinks would be especially erotic, and incorporate some
of that into your play. After all... if he absolutely HATES every single minute
of it... where's the fun for you?
Sometimes talking about the idea of menstrual slavery will add a delicious
element of anticipation to the impending date of his Mistress's flow. If he
doesn't already know your start date, you may wish to tell him, so he can
faithfully keep track of the days until you start.
Conversely, if he doesn't know your start date, you may NOT wish to tell him.
This makes the prospect seem a little more spontaneous, and you have the upper
hand with the element of surprising him. Imagine coming home one afternoon (or
having him come home) and saying "Come with me into the bathroom. No, on your
hands and knees. Today is a special day."
My situation was similar to the one I just offered. My slut knew that he was
going to be my period slave, but he didn't know my exact start date. While he
was at work (I happened to be home all day), my flow started. I had a few hours
to write a letter and make some plans for the scene which would occur when he
walked through the apartment door after work. It went something like this...
Sample scene: Introduction
into menstrual slavery:
Preparations:
I had already used one pad during the morning/afternoon, which I wrapped in
saran wrap and put in the fridge to keep "fresh" for later use while I started
another pad. I wrote my introductory letter and prepared the red thread that
would be tied around his wrist for the duration of my period. I put the letter
and thread in an envelope and left it on a chair I placed right inside the
doorway, so he absolutely couldn't miss it when he came in from work. The
outside of the envelope was marked, in bright red letters, "READ ME." A few
minutes before he was to come home, I took the used pad from the fridge and went
to wait for him in the bathroom. In those few minutes before he opened the door,
I mentally ran through how I wanted to proceed.
The scene:
I heard the door unlock. I heard him opening the letter. There was absolute
silence while he read the letter. It was positively delicious. I could
practically *feel* him trembling with anticipation and anxiety, even in the
other room. The letter read:
[page 1]
Read the enclosed letter.
If you agree, repackage these things in the envelope and bring it to me on your
hands and knees...naked.
If you do not agree, call to me by name. We will discuss the reasons why you
feel this way.
If you need time to consider, come to me, dressed and on your feet, with the
envelope in hand.
Think about it carefully.
--<signature>
[page 2]
<name of sub or term of endearment>,
For the next several days, you will commit yourself to being my menstrual slave.
Your purpose will be to pay homage to my womanhood as though it were your own,
for I chose to share this with you. This is my gift to you, but it has a price.
If you choose now to submit to this gift, then you accept the following duties
which befit a period slut:
1. You will accompany me to the bathroom at all times unless otherwise
instructed. If we are in public, you will accompany me to the door of the ladies
room, where you will kiss my right hand. You will wait there until I emerge, at
which time you will greet my return with another hand-kiss.
2. In the apartment, you will sit at my knee while I use the toilet.
3. You will acknowledge your submission as my menstrual slave by kissing my pad
each time my panties come down, or if I am wearing a tampon alone, by fetching
the string with your mouth and suckling it briefly.
4. It is the menstrual slave's duty to change my pads and tampons when I require
clean ones, and to wash out my panties by hand.
5. When I am finished at the toilet, you will clean me with your mouth unless
otherwise instructed.
As my period slut, you may benefit from the following privileges at my
discretion:
1. You may be marked (either visibly or under your clothing when in public) by
the blood of my womanhood upon your skin.
2. You may be allowed to wear my pads in your panties.
3. You may be allowed to wear my tampons in your slutty hole.
4. You may be allowed to service me sexually as I bathe
your cock with my menstrual blood.
My dirty-sweet one, I know this has been your fantasy for some time. Now we make
it reality. You may find your service exciting, humiliating, or distasteful at
different times--or perhaps concurrently. And you will share these feelings with
me, for while you serve as my very own menstrual slave, your feelings, as well
as your body, as mine.
--<signature>
A few moments later, I heard him disrobe. He came crawling
into the bathroom as instructed, the letter tucked in his mouth. I sat on the
toilet, in my bra and panties. I couldn't help but smile with affection for
him--he looked so darlingly submissive. What followed went something like this:
"You read the letter, and you're here. Do you understand the terms of the
letter?" He nodded. I went over his duties again, briefly, anyway. I wanted to
make sure he knew exactly what he was in for, and precisely what I expected of
him. I knew that he wanted this, but I also could sense from his posture and
respiration that he was was experiencing that wonderful mixture of intense
arousal and tremendous anxiety.
I took the red thread from the envelope and held it before him. I patronized him
just a little: "Do you know what this is for?" He did: he was to be marked. "And
why do you suppose it's red?" He replied, "The blood, My Lady." I explained that
during the entire duration of my period, he would wear the thread around his
wrist as a symbol of this new dimension of servitude, and that it would remain
there until I removed it. After it was tied, I looked into his eyes, then held
him close for reassurance for a moment before I proceeded.
I took down my panties to my ankles. He looked up at me. "Go ahead," I said,
pointing to the pad on the panties, and he knelt and kissed the pad. "Thank you,
My Lady," he said. The quiver in his voice was precisely what I'd hoped for.
Next, I took the prepared pad (the one that had been in the fridge), and wrapped
it around itself, blood side out. "Open your mouth." He opened his mouth
beautifully, accepting the gag.
[If you gag your slave with your pad... watch his face as he orients himself to
the full odor of your blood and secretions. It's marvelous.]
Stepping out of my panties, I ordered him to masturbate upon the pad while
wearing the gag. While he was masturbating, I came around behind him and marked
a large "S" for "slave" on his bare back with my blood (I took a Polaroid of it
for him to view later during afterplay), telling him what a dirty, slutty sissy
he was (obviously dirty talk is part of our play). It didn't take long for him
to climax--hard! *grin* I removed the gag pad from his mouth, and wrapped my
arms around him, praising him for his performance.
Slapping him on the rump, I told him to go fetch a pair of his panties. I put
the pad, on which he'd just masturbated, into his panties and told him that he
would wear the pad until the next morning. I leaned close to him and whispered,
"This time, you have a choice. You may clean me with your mouth, or with a warm
wash cloth."
[Something to consider: the odor and taste of the gag, while pleasurable for
him, may be intense the first few times. Following a gagging scene by demanding
to be cleaned with his mouth may very well make him nauseated.]
He cleaned me with the wash cloth, changed my pad, and pulled up my panties.
Affectionate praise and reassurance followed... he was emotionally and
physically drained. But the preparation had been worth it. His initiation into
menstrual slavehood had been one of our most mentally and emotionally intense
scenes.
Online resources for you and
your slave:
Below are links to various resources on the internet. The aren't links about
menstrual slavery, but rather on the female reproductive system and cycle,
reducing painful symptoms, products to try, etc. How much does your slave know
about a woman's period? Have him find out!!! Places to start:
Nicely presented information about the menstrual cycle, including what happens
in the woman's body during the entire cycle, menstrual customs and traditions of
other cultures, fallacies, and remedies for alleviating cramps:
http://www.fwhc.org/moon.htm
Do you want to collect your menstrual flow for your slave, rather than having it
absorbed by a tampon or pad? Here's a device which will enable the blood to be
collected:
http://www.thekeeperstore.com/keeper/index.htm
A cute, simple site about the female reproductive system:
http://onewoman.com/redspot/biology.html
General information index, including PMS, cramps, exercise, TSS (toxic shock
syndrome), etc.:
http://bodymatters.com/bodymatters/
Q&A about the menstrual cycle from a homeopathic doctor ("What every woman needs
to know about her flow"):
http://www.healthy.net/LIBRARY/Articles/RBUllman/women.htm
Information on natural (some re-useable) pads and tampons, and the hazards of
synthetic tampons. This is a great source to check if you and/or your slave are
particularly interested in the holistic lifestyle, alternative health, or
environmental awareness:
http://critpath.org/%7etracy/spot.html
Gladrags: Cute, natural, washable and re-useable pads!
http://www.gladrags.com
Can you believe there's an online Museum of Menstruation??? (I couldn't either!)
Humorous, snappy, and informative. Definitely worth having your slave look!:
http://www.mum.org/
--taken 7/14/99
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